The Big Decision
Making decisions is one of the most challenging issues of life. What to do, when to do it, is it right or wrong, is it right for me, I want to do this but should I do this, I want to buy this but I’m not sure, I want to marry this person but I have doubts…the list goes on and on.
Making good decisions is the most important issue of life. When you have not made some clear fundamental decisions, you will struggle over the little decisions. When the big decisions are abandoned or allowed to become fuzzy, your level of anxiety will escalate and your decision making will become defective.
Another way to say this: if your big decisions are right, most of the little ones fall into place.
One of the things we must settle in our lives is this: “you can’t have everything.” This is a true fact. You cannot be everything. You cannot live everywhere. You cannot buy everything you want. Even in church ministry, you can’t have every gift, nor can you realistically be involved in every ministry. Absolutely no one is a “one person band” or a “one person show”. You are someone unique, and you have gifts- just not all of them!
It’s important to learn to say “no” at times. Actually the happiest people in life say “no” much more than they say yes. People who cannot say “no” have not made clearcut decisions; they have gray areas where their decisions are fuzzy. They have no framework to determine where to invest their life and time.
You and only you can make the big decisions for your life. You can ask for guidance, council and prayer – but only you can make the decisions. “I just don’t know what to do! What should I do?”
So many people have come to me over the years asking for me to tell them what to do. I’ve always been busy, so the temptation for me is to just say, “Do that or do this, it is the right thing to do or that’s not right for you”, but I cannot and should not make decisions for others. Until a decision is yours, it will never stick. So I have to walk people through the process of good decision-making.
Here is how it works:
Make the first big decision. WHO am I going to live my life for?
This is different than “what am I going to do with my life.” These two questions have subtle differences. First and foremost, who am I going to serve? The WHAT will often be a result of the WHO.
The “what I do” can easily become idolatry. If you give your life to a cause or ministry that is not born out of your commitment to Christ, you will likely burn out. I must give my life to Jesus Christ and through that relationship the rest will fall into place.
Lots of good believers have mixed up these two. Serving the work of God or the church almost unto death – but worn out in many ways, continually needing breaks, no long term happiness. However if your relationship with Jesus is the WHO of your life and the reason you do what you do, life becomes enormously satisfying.
The one who has chosen to live for Jesus has a life that is sold out for the purpose, honor and glory of God. I don’t do anything that would cause me to dishonour God. Once you make that decision, things start to come easier. So you get a job offer, promotion opportunity, and more money, but the opportunity requires working 7 days a week with no time for Jesus. This is a bad decision and you will regret it. Remember Jesus said, “What will it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his own soul?”
Many people serve Jesus and put him first as long as there is nothing else on the horizon. If you are in and out with your commitment to Christ, you have never made the big decision and you are going to make a lot of wrong life-altering decisions.
Settle this today. WHO are you going to live for? What will that mean in your life? Jesus comes first, today and every day. This decision alone will eliminate a lot of other wrong or harmful decisions in life. When you have said yes to serving Jesus, many things will come up that are an automatic “no” because you would violate your own foundational decision to serve God with your heart, mind soul and strength.
More to come in The Big Decision Part 2